Finding the Right Person to Leave Your Child With

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with Candi Wingate, award-winning and nationally recognized child care expert and founder of three of the world’s largest online nanny databases.

For a single mom, finding loving, responsible child care isn’t just a wish—it’s a necessity. When you have to be away, how do you trust the person you’re leaving your children with? What questions must you ask a potential nanny? Should you spy on her with a nanny cam? How can you turn good sitters into excellent ones?

These are some of the questions we’ll answer on this show as we talk with Candi Wingate, award-winning and nationally recognized child care expert and founder of three of the world’s largest online nanny databases. You’ll hear the story of Emily, a mom who thought she was hiring good caregivers but found that she wasn’t at all! Candi will tell us what Emily could have done differently. You’ll learn things to do to keep from hiring the wrong person, including when and why you should run background checks. Candi will also discuss other ways to head off problems with your sitters in advance. “Every mom,” says Candi, “should have a contract with her nanny so that communication and expectations are clear.” She will recommend “nanny cams” (video recorders) and “nanny bugs” (audio recorders)—but not in the secretive sense people often talk about. Candi’s advice will take the “Ick!” out these products, so that you can use them as not as spying devices but as powerful tools. When you can’t be home, using a sitter or a nanny may be a second-best option—but it can be a really good one! The ideas in this program will show you how!


Was this show helpful? Can you share baby-sitting horror stories, or things that worked out? Talk to Julia and other single moms by leaving a comment on this show blog post.  Let’s Chat!

43 Responses to Finding the Right Person to Leave Your Child With

  • juliaespey

    Replied on: September 26, 2011, 4:30 pm

    Hey There, Julia Here… An experience I didn’t share on the radio show was when I came home early from school and DISCOVERED that my nanny (a 26 year old, super sweet and caring, but naive!, art student guy) went for a jog after he put my son to sleep in his crib.

    It took me a bit to get over the UNBELIEF that anyone could be that stupid! I kept opening closets thinking: he must be here somewhere– no one would leave a baby alone in an house!!

    What did I do? I could have easily fired him on the spot, but he had so many good qualities–and my son really needed a positive male influence– so I told him that if he wanted to keep this job he had to call home and tell HIS mom and dad what he did. (I knew he came from a good family.) He did it, and it was painful to him– “his mom said, “what if there had been a fire” his dad said “what if the baby had woken up sick,scared, wet, etc… and no one came …” They hammered home the possible consequences of his stupid actions.

    I let HIS PARENTS emphasize the dangers, as third party validation that it just wasn’t me being over-reactive. Though I watched this sitter like a hawk for months later, I kept him and in the end he became one of the best nanny’s ever… and he and my son truly love each other now. He became a surrogate dad, even, and will always be in our lives.

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    Replied on: September 27, 2011, 10:58 am

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    Replied on: September 27, 2011, 2:33 pm

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  • Andrew Ramirez

    Replied on: September 27, 2011, 8:47 pm

    Julia, nice job on this interview. I’m married to an ex-single-mom and have many friends that fall into the single mom category. Finding great child care is indeed difficult to do.

    The challenge is that nobody is going to love and treat your child like you do. Setting clear expectatons as well as “monitoring” are great elements to keeping your child safe.

    Thanks for sharing.

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    Replied on: September 28, 2011, 4:39 pm

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  • Nancy Jeff

    Replied on: October 8, 2011, 4:00 am

    Thanks for the share!

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    • juliaespey

      Replied on: October 14, 2011, 1:43 pm

      So great to have you on our feed! and in our circle of friends now. Thanks for the thumbs up. Love to you! – Julia

  • Steph

    Replied on: October 14, 2011, 11:43 pm

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    Replied on: October 15, 2011, 2:28 pm

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    • juliaespey

      Replied on: October 20, 2011, 9:13 pm

      Please pass this link along, with the radio show interview with expert Candi Wingate. Getting dependable, loving and affordable childcare IS one of the most important decisions we make as parents, if we have to be away at work. Thanks for sharing.


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    Replied on: October 23, 2011, 3:23 am

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    • juliaespey

      Replied on: October 23, 2011, 9:40 am

      Thanks for the comment. The posts lead to the radio show which goes thoroughly into the topic. Have you checked that out? Expert Candi answers tons of questions thoroughly.

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    Replied on: October 23, 2011, 8:02 pm

    About your show: My husband and i most certainly couldn’t have figured out all you have reported on our own. Literally, as i read about this subject from other sources i think you might be totally right. thanks!

  • Gerard Derouchie

    Replied on: October 24, 2011, 9:00 pm

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    Replied on: October 25, 2011, 1:39 am

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  • fear of conflict

    Replied on: October 25, 2011, 2:04 am

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    • juliaespey

      Replied on: October 25, 2011, 7:27 am

      Hi there “fear of conflict” mom,
      I’d love to definitely help you out with any specific issues. Post them here or send me an email: Looking forward to hearing from you.

  • parenting

    Replied on: October 25, 2011, 3:04 am

    Heya i’m for the first time here. I came across this blog and radio show and I find It truly helpful; it helped me to figure out child care options. I am hoping to offer something again and help others like you helped me.

  • becky

    Replied on: October 26, 2011, 8:27 pm

    I’ve had a lot of trouble finding good childcare. Candi’s advice and Julia’s questions were really helpful in the interview. Is this a paid topic or did you customize it your self? Either way stay up the excellent high quality writing on this blog and interview, it is uncommon to peer a nice weblog like this one these days.

    • juliaespey

      Replied on: October 27, 2011, 10:47 am

      No this isn’t a paid site, nor a paid interview. I just do it because I believe in supporting single mothers to be their best, and this includes great ideas and facts that help us to make better decisions.

  • Diane

    Replied on: October 29, 2011, 9:02 am

    really fantastic — getting good child care can be such a problem! After listening to this show, I interviewed my sitter differently and I think it worked. Great Job! Thanks.

  • Larry

    Replied on: October 30, 2011, 1:55 pm

    Hey why make this show’s focus for single moms… I’m a stay at home dad (job layoff two years ago) and I’m liking it. It’s not just fluff!! (like some of the sites… do I really near another stroller review!!) I found this post and show really helpful because I’m considering going back to work. (I think I have some options now.) and my wife and I have this big fear around child care. This helps to make us more comfortable. I really like the “nanny bug” that Candi you discussed on the show.

    • juliaespey

      Replied on: October 31, 2011, 9:36 am

      He there Larry,
      So glad to have you as apart of our community!! We’ve got to have a focus, though I do think my posts and shows are really useful to all parents. I start off many of the posts “Hey single moms and friends…” you’re definitely the friends! Great comment… it’s totally overwhelming to entrust another to do your job that you’ve done for several years. Glad this helped… and say “yes to the Nanny Bug!”

  • mia

    Replied on: October 31, 2011, 5:30 pm

    I hope to you’ll have Candi back on as a guest.

    • juliaespey

      Replied on: November 2, 2011, 10:05 am

      Thanks for the feedback! I’ll consider it.

  • Ferdinand Keator

    Replied on: November 1, 2011, 12:33 am

    Thank you for another essential blog and radio show. I’m going back and listening to all your shows, and I face booked you too with a recommend!

  • Sandi Walter

    Replied on: November 1, 2011, 4:12 am

    Hi, I’m sure glad I stumbled across your show and blog. I wanted to hang out with more single moms. I like the experts you bring forward. I need help with my son and manners. I feel like I’m the drill sergeant. Every dinner time is a struggle. His manners are awful and his dad (my ex) doesn’t care. Is teaching him manners important or not? Am I being too concerned? I just don’t want to be limited by his manners in life. Am I being silly?

    • juliaespey

      Replied on: November 2, 2011, 10:36 am

      Hey Sandi. Thanks for the request. ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE! I just booked an etiquette consultant and did an interview/show with her- Nov. 14th- it will be up. Have a listen!!

  • Petrina Paxson

    Replied on: November 1, 2011, 3:22 pm

    Hello.This post was extremely motivating, especially because I was browsing for thoughts on this subject last couple of days.

    • juliaespey

      Replied on: November 2, 2011, 9:38 am

      Thanks Petrina, check out the radio show attached to it too. The guest Candi Wingate is a great expert to have to help us with our childcare questions.

  • seng nduwe gendeng

    Replied on: November 2, 2011, 2:00 pm

    I like Your Article about Finding the Right Person to Leave Your Child With | Single Mom Talk Radio. Perfect – just what I was searching for!

  • Lillie Fundusz

    Replied on: November 3, 2011, 9:39 am

    Fine blog here and interview, but what I still don’t know is it really OK to find your babysitter online (like the guest Candi recommends with her online service.) What are your thoughts?

    • juliaespey

      Replied on: November 3, 2011, 11:16 am

      Excellent question Lillie– well, people are having lots of success with marriages and online dating– what’s good about it is it gives you more options. Having said that, always check references, always do a trial period (your children will know– do you see any differences in them under her care, are they happy, adjusting?) I once started a nanny off by having her home when I was also home but working, and I could hear how she interacted. I met my favorite nanny in the park, because I watched her take care of another child and was impressed with the attention she gave him. But she was a stranger that I trusted enough to give her a try (based on the info I had on her.) That’s perhaps why I like the ideal of nanny bug or nanny cam that Candi suggests in the radio show, to be used as a tool, not a spying device. In Summary: Be cautious, trust your instincts as a mommy, and pay for background checks. ICandi’s company, “Nannie4Hire” has found EXCELLENT people for families- because it can give you more options than you might have on your own.

  • cardamom

    Replied on: November 3, 2011, 10:40 am

    I was suggested this web site by my cousin. I am not sure whether this post is written by him as nobody else know such detailed about the difficulty I was having — with getting someone I could depend on and feel good about going back to work again. You are amazing! Candi was really helpful. Thanks!

  • Mary

    Replied on: November 3, 2011, 2:34 pm

    I wanted to thank you for this great I definitely loved every little bit of it. I have you bookmarked your site to check out the latest stuff you post, and your next show.

  • Mary Lavingstone

    Replied on: November 4, 2011, 3:26 pm

    Just wanted to share. We starting a new neighborhood childcare group. Your show/blog gave us the idea of recording it so the other mothers can help shape the way conflicts are handled. Thanks

  • lewis

    Replied on: November 7, 2011, 7:52 pm

    My wife found this show as we were having child care issues. Thanks for the tips. It got me looking into monitoring devices and I found this cool one from Apple. It sends live video to your iphone/ipad. Its a bit pricey but way cool and worth my peace of mind.

    • juliaespey

      Replied on: November 10, 2011, 8:06 am

      Thanks for the device tip Lewis. I’ll go check it out at a Apple store near me.

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