Too Sexy? Too Violent? Too Soon?

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Here is THIS WEEK’S RADIO SHOW: Listen here 

with developmental psychologist, Dr. Nancy Buck 


Hello Single Moms & Friends,

In our sexed-up, violence-based media world, experts are asking if our children are being bombarded with images that are far too sexy, too violent, too soon. As a researcher and mother, I say, “Absolutely yes!” But today’s guest, developmental psychologist and mother Dr. Nancy Buck, begs to differ. “Every generation of parents has said the same thing,” she argues.

While her argument doesn’t sway me (I remain horrified at the effects the media are having on our teens), she and I do agree on one thing: if parents don’t mitigate the images and influences, then these images and influences will shape our children’s values for life!

Listen to today’s show for a lively talk about the influences of media and Hollywood on our kids—and what mothers can do about it. It’s not as simple as turning off the TV. “Good luck trying to protect your children from these influences,” says Dr. Buck. “That will eventually be a losing battle.” But what moms can do, she says, is have early, straightforward, and truthful conversations with their kids. If mothers consistently and critically discuss what’s on television and in song lyrics, then these influences will have much less impact.

On this show, you’ll hear how I overcame my discomfort and was able to talk about sexual issues with my son (earlier than I would have wanted to) and, as a result, built a new level of trust with him. You’ll also hear Dr. Buck’s psychological wisdom about what’s really going on with children—their struggle for power and their struggle to get their needs met in some way—and how these struggles affect the media’s impact.

By the end of today’s show, you’ll have a clear action plan for dealing with the sexy, violent influences coming at our children.

Are you horrified too with the images & impact of the media on our children? 
Or is Julia just a prude? Share your thoughts with a comment. 


6 Responses to Too Sexy? Too Violent? Too Soon?

  • Willie

    Replied on: November 8, 2011, 6:25 pm

    Love the fresh design. I liked the information about the Media. Many thanks for your brilliant blog & show with Dr. Buck.

  • Mindy K

    Replied on: November 8, 2011, 10:49 pm

    I agree with you Julia. I think our values in society have sunk… and it’s creeping into our children’s water. The kids that are the most risk, unfortunately, are the ones not reading your blog or listening to your show. If you’re doing this– you’re a pretty aware mother, and more likely to monitor what your child does. I appreciate your suggestion to have straight-to-straight conversations. We can’t let our children be naive—the internet will teach your kids if you don’t. To me that’s upsetting.

    • juliaespey

      Replied on: November 10, 2011, 8:19 am

      Totally get it. I could get upset too… but I’d rather redirect my energy into some kind of advocacy group… actually doing this show is my re-direct of energy! I think we need to have conversations and really make sure moms and dads are aware at what’s coming at our children– that (as Good Morning America did a show on) “the new goodbye kiss is a blow job.” If my child was a teen or even pre-teen (my son isn’t yet) I’d want to be aware that this is going on in the culture of high school and middle schools–and prepare my child and have truthful conversations about it. Thanks for keeping the conversation alive, Mindy!

  • Heidi

    Replied on: November 12, 2011, 2:09 pm

    Hey I’m with you Julia! Even commercials are too suggestive for kids. It’s like hidden morality lessons that’s NOT positive. I’m an active member of a church and I can’t believe that more Christians aren’t writing in to networks and complaining. I’m just going to have to outlaw TV if it gets any worse.

  • BF

    Replied on: November 16, 2011, 2:24 am

    How do you keep your kids from finding or watching Porn on the internet???

    • juliaespey

      Replied on: November 18, 2011, 10:39 am

      Don’t know… I need to do some research. There are ways to lock up the computer I believe, but I don’t know yet without finding it out. One thing… I don’t let my son use the computer/phone/ipad anything but in the living room where I can glance by as I walk through. … if something seems to violent or not appropriate (not in our pre-discussed guidelines) we talk about it immediately and the computer gets a rest!

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