The epidemic of ADHD/ADD in kids and what’s GOOD about it!

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Hello Single Moms & Friends,

This week’s show is all about considering what’s GOOD about our children’s challenges–even the acute ones. Before you get a pitch fork out, consider the metaphor of the butterfly.

  A Butterfly’s Journey

There was once a woman who while gardening noticed a caterpillars’ cocoon, and the butterfly that was trying to emerge. There was a tiny crack and this butterfly was fighting to open it. For hours she watched it struggle and struggle to work its way through the crack. After a long while it seemed to stop. It had expended all it’s energy and couldn’t do any more.

So the loving and caring woman thought “Let me help.” She carefully took a tiny garden tool and gently cracked open the opening a bit further so the butterfly could emerge. Sure enough, it worked and the butterfly came sliding out and landed on the ground. 
It was all curled up and she waited expectantly for it to open its wings and fly, except it never did. It remained a withered creature for the rest of its life. What this woman discovered later was this: cracking open the cocoon is nature’s way of moving fluid from the butterfly’s body to its wing. The struggle was necessary and divine for the butterfly to build the strength to some day fly on its own.

When you’re tempted to think that your children’s challenges are nothing but negative, consider the Butterfly’s Journey and whether there is some purpose to it all. You’ll see what I mean when you listen to this weeks show.

Blessings!

Julia

ABOUT THIS WEEK’S RADIO SHOW: Listen here

The Epidemic of ADHD/ADD in kids

and what’s GOOD about it! 

with ADHD/ADD coach and specialist, Laurie Dupar 

What could possibly be good about ADHD/ADD? Google “ADHD” and you’ll get 62 million hits of symptoms, medications, and side effects. You’ll find a long list of everything that’s wrong—all the ways ADHD/ADD children aredeficient, how they fail to, how they are less than, and what they can’t do—and very few sites or experts who say anything positive. But there is one.

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Creating an Inspiring Life (by converting a hobby into a career) with Baby Steps

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Hello Single Mom’s & friends,

Last week Steve Jobs passed on, and I cried. Did I know him personally? No, but he profoundly impacted my life nonetheless. I love all things Apple. Everyone agrees that the world lost a great visionary. We also lost a rare kind of leader who lived and spoke directly from his heart. His recommendations for living, given in his well known Stanford commencement address, is just what this weeks’ “single mom talk radio” guest did. Single mother, Diane Halfman, an ex-undercover vice cop didn’t settle. She could have. We all can.

Steve Jobs would have approved.

Here are some excerpts:

Find what you love. Do what you love.

Jobs: “I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.”

When you know what you love, don’t waste time doing something else.

Jobs: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

But…I hear the excuses, I know the reasons…we moms have a lot of responsibility and carving out the time, energy and resources to do more of the things we love—something different, scary, unknown–often gets placed in the “dream” bucket, not the “to-do” list. This week Diane and Steve inspired me to give up excuses, chunk down my dreams and involve my son. Diane reminded me that it’s not necessary to do it all in a single swoop, but just to start walking towards it.

Blessings!

Julia

ABOUT THIS WEEK’S SHOW: Listen here

with lifestyle organizer and single mom Diane Halfman

 

Your “to-do” list is waiting. It’s filled with family necessities like going to work, paying bills, cooking dinner, and doing laundry, but with very few—if any—truly inspiring line items. It’s filled with all the things you must do, not what you want to do! Sound familiar? Even worse—what if your job is a total downer, too!?

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Planting Self-Esteem Seeds That Sprout Happy, Powerful People

Posted in: Parenting

(21 comments)  Hey there, Single Mom peeps! I’m improving things over here. Going forward, I’ll be bringing you both a great weekly radio show with a show description, and—also on this websitea short personal blog post on the same topic. This way, you and I can connect more… better… truer. Make sure you click the RSS button to automatically receive your weekly postings. (And pssssttt… tell a friend!)

Here’s today’s blog post:
This video filled my eyes with tears. It’s tough. It’s true.

I’ve posted this video because it relates to self-esteem—our topic this week on Single Mom Talk Radio. The reason why it relates is that the key to teaching our kids self-esteem is having great self-esteem ourselves. Children will build their self-image based on ours.

It’s painful to look in the mirror. Each of us single moms has a messy story to tell. My mommy journey was one of abandonment and loss (see my bio). If I were to tell you that my self-esteem wasn’t devastated when my son’s father left me to birth and raise a child on my own, I’d be lying.

I survived because new and old friends rallied around me. Through writing the If I Were Your Daddy… book, through many personal development programs, and through the grace of God, I rebuilt my self-image and self-esteem stronger than before. But this process took years. (And lots of European chocolate.)

Check out today’s radio show and take notes on the insights shared. (I’ve listened to it twice already!) Our guest, Dr. Joe Rubino, also offers a self-esteem building program, helpful because it’s not about hearing something once. It’s about creating the habits that are going to build rock-solid, personally powerful people: us and our children.

Whether you get Dr. Rubino’s program or another one, building self-esteem can be a priceless education—worth investing our time to master and pass on to our children.

Blessings!

Julia

ABOUT THIS WEEK’S SHOW: Listen here

with Dr. Joe Rubino – author of more than twelve self-esteem books and audio programs

Self-esteem seeds are being planted in our children everyday, just as they were planted in us when we were young. It’s human nature to fill in the gaps and give meaning to our lives. As a result, children often generalize events in an attempt to both understand and avoid unpleasant experiences. A girl who did poorly on a math test may conclude, “I’m not very smart.” A boy who gets teased in class may conclude, “People don’t like me. It’s better if I don’t speak up.” The effects of such conclusions are disastrous. Left unchecked, they can lead to tragedy. More commonly they show up in disguise, as endless struggle.

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Finding the Right Person to Leave Your Child With

Posted in: Parenting

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with Candi Wingate, award-winning and nationally recognized child care expert and founder of three of the world’s largest online nanny databases.

For a single mom, finding loving, responsible child care isn’t just a wish—it’s a necessity. When you have to be away, how do you trust the person you’re leaving your children with? What questions must you ask a potential nanny? Should you spy on her with a nanny cam? How can you turn good sitters into excellent ones?

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The Secrets to Cleaning Up Your Credit Score and Keeping it Strong

Posted in: Money

(11 comments)  with licensed FICO professional and credit restoration expert Joe McGlynn

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What three little numbers can cost you thousands of dollars? Answer: your FICO credit score—and it’s easier to change than you might believe. An article in MSN Money calculated that the difference between a 750 and a 650 credit score is a startling $201,712 in extra interest paid over a lifetime. Home and car insurance premiums are even higher when your score is lower, and just one little oops—one late credit card payment, for example—can lower your score by as much as 100 points.

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Dating Again: Telling the Truth So Your Love Life Can Blossom (part 2)

Posted in: Relationships

(27 comments) with 23-year veteran relationship mentor Eva Love

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Who would have thought that the ancient Greek saying “Know thyself” also applied to having great relationships and finding a lasting love? Relationship mentor Eva Love, that’s who! After spending 23 years mentoring even the toughest cases, Eva knows that unless you love yourself—deeply—no one else will either! Sounds logical until you consider this major obstacle: Before you can love yourself, you’ve got to know yourself first.

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Dating Again: Kiss Another Toad or Find Your Prince?

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(9 comments)  with 23-year veteran relationship mentor Eva Love

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“…And they lived happily ever after!” What a crock of *%&*! As little girls, we get fed this fairy-tale ending, often in the most delightful movies and books. I mean, who didn’t love the Disney film Enchanted? But now it’s “Why the heck didn’t my life turn out like that?” If you’ve ever thought this, or decided to give up on love (just till the children are 18), or wanted to escape dating any more “toads”—then this show is just for you

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Work-Family Balance: Is it Fantasy or Probability?

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Vonda Vaden (Vv) Bates shares secrets learned as Target executive and solo mom (click here to listen)

 

Scientists are still searching for the chip that gets inserted in a mommy’s brain when her child is born. It’s the chip that whispers in her head, “Mommy… Do more. Be more. You’re not enough!” Something drives we mothers to do more and more. We put impossible standard on ourselves. We expect to do it all. It’s no wonder mother’s…

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